When your toddler decides to have a massive meltdown in a grocery store, there are a number of things you can do.

Ignore the toddler as they cry and carry on.

Console the toddler which only gets more cries and carrying on.

Smack the toddler (for which you will be severely judged) for displaying uncontrollable behavior.

Whatever the reaction – you will be judged as will your child.

But why the judgement when many of us have been there before?

One mum headed to Facebook to share her account of dealing with her fighting toddlers in a grocery store.

On August 21, Aly Brothers shared her experience at the grocery store with her “two blonde haired, blue eyed, angel faced toddlers.”

The shopping trip was tough because her toddlers were a hand-full and knocked things off displays and fought over a shared balloon. Multiple customers stopped to watch the young mum as she struggled to deal with her toddlers’ behaviour.

“Everyone’s eyes were on me as if to say, ‘Can’t you control your own children,’” she wrote. “One older gentleman whispered, ‘She’s pretty young for two kids’ and I lost it.”

Brothers pointed out to the other shoppers in her post that they had no right to judge and stare because they didn’t know her or what she had gone through as a mum.

“They don’t know me. They don’t know me as a mother. They don’t know my children,” she wrote. “They don’t know I was married before I started a family. They don’t know I left that marriage because of abuse knowing I would have it just as hard as a single mother.”

Brothers also explained the hard truth about motherhood and single motherhood – it ain’t always pretty, and it’s mostly hard.

This is motherhood.

No fancy filters, no good lighting, no new lipstick. It’s messy hair that’s wet from the rain, yesterday’s makeup that I was too tired to wash off, and tears. Motherhood is HARD. Single-motherhood is HARD. These tears started as the cashier of Giant Eagle handed me my receipt and continued for the entire drive home. Tears that were passed on to my oldest in the backseat because he doesn’t like to see his mommy cry. We know how much boys love their mothers.

You see, my two blonde haired, blue eyed, angel faced toddlers were not so angelic today. It was 8:00 in the morning and we were out of milk. We took a trip to the store because if you know my kids; you know they survive on chocolate milk. But they weren’t having it. My youngest cried almost the entire time we were in the store. He didn’t want to sit in the cart, he didn’t want to be buckled, he wanted to hold all the groceries on his lap. He got mad. He threw his shoe, he threw my wallet, he threw the three groceries that did fit on his lap. And he cried. And people stared. That was fine, I could handle that. My three year old wanted to be superman and stand on the cart. That was fine. I told him to hold on and stand straight. He did not. He fell off, he leaned backwards and knocked things off their displays. He leaned back and bumped a stranger. Then I made him get down and he walked too far ahead of me and opened all the freezer section doors telling me all the things he wanted to get. I tried to handle that. I stopped multiple times and composed myself and my children.

The lady that I stopped and moved to the side of the aisle for glared at me because I moved the wrong way, she needed behind me not in front of me. No words, just a glare. I tried to handle that. And then we saw balloons. Oh how my kids love balloons. They wanted the huge ones that cost $8.00. I compromised. We would get one balloon and share. They agreed. They each said “share” and smiled as I picked the biggest Mickey Mouse balloon they had. But while we were checking out they did not want to share. They screamed, they cried, they fought. I handed the balloon to another cashier to be put back and they cried louder.

My youngest pushed buttons on the card machine while my oldest picked up candy. The people in line behind me glared. The cashier glared. Everyone’s eyes were on me as if to say “can’t you control your own children”. One older gentleman whispered, “she’s pretty young for two kids” and I lost it. She handed me my receipt and I cried. They don’t know me. They don’t know me as a mother. They don’t know my children. They don’t know I was married before I started a family. They don’t know I left that marriage because of abuse knowing I would have it just as hard as a single mother. It’s hard people. The glares and whispers and judgments are hard. Sometimes I can control my children and sometimes I can’t. Sometimes they listen and sometimes they don’t. Sometimes I can handle it and sometimes I break down. I know these days will pass, the tears will stop, the fighting will cease, and my babies will be grown. And that will be hard too. So if you see a parent struggling, if you see a kid throwing a tantrum, if you see a mom on the verge of tears…please say something nice. Please don’t glare with judgement. And to all moms out there having a day like mine…I see you, I know you, I love you. You are strong and you are doing just fine.

Brothers ends her post asking her Facebook followers to say something nice next time they see an overwhelmed and struggling parent.

Since the post was published on Thursday, it has 52,000 likes and has been shared over 18,000 times.

Brothers didn’t expect her post to go viral but admits to The Huffington Post, she wanted other parents not to feel alone. “We all have struggles, we all deal with tantrums, we all have bad days.

“And I knew at that moment when I felt weak and judged and criticized, I didn’t want anyone else to feel that way so I thought I could send a positive message with hope to help at least one person.”