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Dad Pens Heartbreaking Message to His Mates for Excluding His Autistic Son From Their Children’s Parties

Dad Pens Heartbreaking Message to His Mates for Excluding His Autistic Son From Their Children’s Parties

A mum has shared her husband’s emotionally-charged (and very sweary) message to his friends after their son was excluded from yet another birthday party.

Christine and Shane Stephenson, from Newcastle in the UK, have a gorgeous six-year-old son, Reilly, who has autism. Shane noticed that his mates have held birthday parties for their own children and realised that his son has not been invited to a single one of them.

“Reilly is pretty much nonverbal and is an awesome little boy,” Christine told HuffPost UK.

“Shane was incredibly upset at the thought of Reilly not being part of his circle of friends. This incident was just the straw that broke the camels back.

Christine shared her husband’s expletive-filled message on Twitter, where the couple were met with much support from the community.


“Right, this has been brewing for some time so here it goes so you can like it or fucking well lump it,” Shane wrote in his heartbreaking rant.

“My son Reilly has autism, not fucking leprosy; he is 6 years old and my so-called friends who have kids also have kids parties. Not ONE invite, not fucking one. Think about that whilst you go and fuck yourselves; have you any idea how hurtful that is?

“Just for the record in future don’t bother. He’s not an afterthought he’s my every fucking thought.”

Christine revealed that her husband posted his message online after seeing a friend’s post about a child’s birthday party that Reilly wasn’t invited to. But truthfully, the words were a long time coming. “It hurt him, but that post was just the straw that broke the camel’s back. He has felt for a long time that we are often overlooked and support in general isn’t great,” she says.

While the family may not feel supported by their circle of friends, they certainly found it online after Christine’s tweet spread like wildfire.

Being left out of social events can be such a common thing for families with children on the spectrum. If you’re hesitant to invite a child to a party because you’re not sure how the logistics would work, better to ask and have the conversation with their parents than exclude them completely.

“I think the parents know their child’s comfort levels so just ask and let them decide,” Christine says. “We struggle to have any type of social life to be included is priceless.”

Seems so simple, really.

Source: The Life of Reilly


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5 thoughts on “Dad Pens Heartbreaking Message to His Mates for Excluding His Autistic Son From Their Children’s Parties

  1. AvatarBlossom

    Wow !! He certainly told his “friends” his thoughts. Good on him !!!
    If they were going to re-consider I doubt they will with his final comment.
    I know some with Autism don’t cope well with large numbers of people or a lot of noise. Parents should be given a choice whether or not to accept an invitation. They know how their child reacts to different environments.

    It may be as simple as don’t have the music too high or have toys used in activities that make loud banging noises.

  2. AvatarAmanda Abbott

    He should give his friends a copy of ‘The Boy with a Different Brain’. Whilst it’s written for children to understand ASD, it sounds like these adults need perspective too. Whilst I don’t have a child with ASD, I have one with Tourette’s, another recently diagnosed with Epilepsy and another who has an auto- immune disease and salycilate allergy… What gets me riled up is ignorance… Recently a lady, upon learning that 3 of my 6 kids had, and I quote ‘needs’ said to me “I couldn’t imagine having a child with needs”. In all honesty, I was pissed by her comment and responded with, “do your own children not need love, support, nurturing, food and basic needs? Do your own children not require you to teach them understanding, limits, boundaries, manners, right from wrong etc? Quite simply, all children have ‘needs’, but unfortunately it seems that not all parents have the ability to foster inclusion, kindness, acceptance and empathy but would rather develop ignorance” with that, I left the vicinity, fuming but adamant that I would practice kindness in the face of ignorance. I won’t be accepting of ignorance but will champion education to combat ignorance, exclusion and bullying… Buy your friends the book… Perhaps it will show them that brilliance is abound in many wrappings…we are all the same flesh and blood and thus should warrant equality among all.

    1. AvatarKaren

      Amanda Abbott, I love your response about “needs”, what a wonderful dignified way to handle, what was obviously a very rude, ignorant woman! 🥰

  3. AvatarLinda Guinta

    Good for him,I have 2 boys in my family with Autism, they ate awesome, one is in college now.

  4. AvatarMarissa

    Good on you for saying the truth. That Is so ridiculous that in this modern society your son and your family have been excluded from parties. If you guys were friends of mine and I’m in Adelaide Australia I would not hesitate at including you in my social gathering. God bless you all and I hope those so called friends had the balls to apologise


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